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First of all, congratulations for getting here. Many did not, unfortunately, but you persevered in the face of the guyQ Test questions and for that, you deserve a little pat on the back. (Let’s not go too wild here — after all, if you deserved a big pat on the back, you probably wouldn’t have clicked on the “Not satisfied? Click here” link.)
All that being said, it’s important to note that self-improvement is rarely easy and experts are made, not born. So consider this article a step on a path to becoming a better man — one whose expertise is well-rounded and diverse. If you’re here, it’s because you want to learn more about dating, and that’s awesome. So read on for a little grab bag of advice and products that’ll give any guy a leg up on the next one.
Deciding when to text a date is an anxiety-inducing dilemma, but there are some guidelines that will help. As a general, baseline rule, you should text a date when it feels right to do so (in other words, the saying “trust your gut” really applies here): if you had a great time and feel like texting a few hours after the date, there’s no hard and fast rule that says you shouldn’t. Similarly, it’s okay to wait a day or two, but any longer than that in our fast-paced world of rapid communication is likely to signal disinterest — the old “three days” rule is well and truly out of date.
Receiving a nude from someone is a privilege and a sign that they trust you enough to share an intimate (and potentially risky) photograph with you. The first thing you should do is thank the sender — she could have sent the picture to anyone, but she chose you! The second thing you should do is compliment her, and be effusive with your praise: a single heart-eye emoji is probably going to be feel underwhelming if she’s put a lot of effort into the nude. Send a whole string of them at the very least, but try using your words, too! Finally, you need to keep it somewhere very secure and never, ever show it to anybody else: it’s on loan to you, remember, and it’s not yours to wave around the place.
Ah, catcalling. Despite being a common occurrence in movies and IRL, and a seemingly age-old phenomenon, it’s actually a form of street harassment, and you should never do it. For one, it makes women feel unsafe, objectified and humiliated, and it’s also very unlikely to result in you landing a date — some random woman is hardly going to rush through traffic to you, flapping her phone number on a piece of paper, because you yelled “hey sexy, nice ass!” at her from across the street. Hollering at someone is never a good way to initiate a romantic relationship, and your approach to catcalling is easy to sum up in one single rule: just don’t do it.
Cunnilingus is the most reliable route to orgasm for many women, and having a strong technique will make you an MVP in the bedroom. It’s always best to start by avoiding the clitoris initially: kiss her inner thighs and lick around her vulva to warm her up, and when she’s practically begging for it, that’s the time to make some gentle contact with her clit. Start softly and gradually vary your tongue movements, responding to any verbal and physical cues that suggest she’d like you to go harder, softer, faster or slower (e.g. saying “gently!”, pulling your head towards her, shifting her weight away from you, etc.) Most importantly, talk to her: she will be able to give you exact feedback on what works best for her.
Breaking up with someone is never a fun activity, and it’s going to be a rough task no matter how tactfully you handle it. That said, there are some tips you can follow to make it go as smoothly as possible under the circumstances. Once you are sure your heart is no longer in the relationship, don’t delay: prolonging the inevitable means you’re going to hurt her feelings even more. Make sure you do it in person, too: an over-the-phone break-up — or worse, a text message! — is cowardly. Give a simple, diplomatic reason and then make a clean break, which means no contact for at least a few months while you give each other time to move on.
What you get your significant other for your anniversary depends on a few key factors. Firstly, which anniversary are you celebrating? If you’re newly dating, you might celebrate month by month, but in general an anniversary gift is overkill for anything other than the yearly dates. Secondly, you’re going to need to realistically consider your own budget and, finally, what kind of person your partner is. Will flowers and chocolates delight her, or elicit an eyeroll? You know her better than just about anybody by now, so tailor the gift to her personality and remember the old cliche: it really is the thought that counts — we mean it!
There’s an old theory that you should spend one month’s salary on an engagement ring, but it’s a pretty outdated rule now. Instead, it’s better to take into account the following factors: how much can you honestly afford, taking into account that this is an important symbol of your commitment to your partner, and what kind of ring your partner would most cherish. From there, you’ll need to do your research on what type of stones, bands and styles are available to you and make an executive decision on how much you’re going to shell out. The average person in the U.S. spends just over $6,000, but you really need to take into account your own circumstances here.
Sometimes, the best way to increase your expertise is to put your money where your mouth is. To that end, here are a few options for you that might help:
